Last week when I was reading my copy of Runner’s World, I was struck by an article about running with your significant other, advice to make it a good experience and testimonies from running couples who say it’s great for bonding.
I remember thinking, “People actually do that? That’s a thing?”
Yes, Amanda. People do that. I just can’t imagine it working in my own relationship.
When I started running, I kind of always wanted to date another runner. I always thought it would be cool to do races with someone and talk about gross things like blisters. I started dating Tyler instead.
Tyler is athletic, just not the kind of athletic that I am. He played football in high school and still plays flag football in a league and pick-up games of basketball with his friends. He runs to stay in shape for that. He doesn’t really enjoy it.
I got him to run a 5k with me in December, but that’s because it was Christmas themed. He loves Christmas. I told him that if he hated the experience, I would never make him run one again.
I got him to run the race, but I couldn’t get him to wear the antlers that came with the packet. Gotta pick your battles.
He said he enjoyed it and would consider doing another. He even said at the finish line of my half marathon that he liked the atmosphere and could see why I loved racing. My heart soared.
But even when we did the race together, we ran separately. He is much faster than me and finished the race in 24 minutes. If I tried to keep up with him, I would keel over, and I didn’t want to slow him down by asking him to hold back with me.
We also don’t run together because I prefer to run alone. It’s my “me time,” and I’m the kind of person who needs to be alone often and sort through my thoughts. Being with people all the time wears me out. (Introvert alert!) If I lost that time, I wouldn’t be a great person to be around.
So even though I had my heart set on dating another runner, I think being with Tyler ended up being better. He supports my running by being my No. 1 spectator (other than my parents), and he still listens to me rant about blisters and DOH. We have our own hobbies, but we support each other in them. That’s what is really important.
Do you run with your SO? Do you want to date another runner, cyclist or athlete?